I didn’t hear the news today until almost an hour after it had happened, because I keep my phone on silent in the mornings so I can play with Henry before camp, which is at his preschool. We walked there this morning, and at one point we heard a big rustle in the tree in front of us. He stopped and pointed and said, “What WAS that?” I said, “Maybe a squirrel?” He seemed delighted by this, and wanted to watch the tree for another minute or so just in case the squirrel decided to rustle again.
It was like a lovely little prelapsarian moment before everything came crashing down.
Even though we were expecting this, it still hits — hard. The parents I know, myself included, are increasingly despondent about the world that we’re bringing our kids up in. And we’re worried about the people who will be forced to become parents now, against their will. I’m also, today, thinking about what this means for IVF. It seems likely that laws restricting genetic testing and the discarding of embryos is not far off, and that is also scary.
So in lieu of the typical Friday links post, and in light of the Supreme Court decision today, I wanted to give us all a space to rage and grieve and offer comfort and, maybe, even hope. This discussion is open to all subscribers — but it’s also totally fine, of course, to not participate at all. Everyone is going to handle this news in their own way.
I personally will be making more donations to the National Network of Abortion Funds and Plan C, and also thinking about the ways in which I can show up. I was inspired by something that Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez tweeted today: “While we can’t change the world in a day, we CAN and do have the power to make our own world within our four walls, or our own blocks. We can grow from there with the faith that somewhere out there, everywhere, others are doing the same. And we will come together. That’s why if you’re a parent, how you parent matters. If you’re a neighbor, how you’re a neighbor matters. Many of our biggest problems are results of massively scaled up isolation from others. That means many of our solutions can be found in creating community.”
This is a virtual community, of course, but a community nonetheless. Let’s lean on each other today, and all the days.
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