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Sep 22, 2023Liked by Doree Shafrir

My husband is in the military so we move every few years. It makes it really hard to hang on to things when I’m worried about exceeding our moving weight allowance or that it’ll get ruined in the move. I feel like we purge so much stuff on both ends of a move but there is still so much stuff.

Lucky for me, my dear MIL is an amazing quilter. She turned all those special onesies (like the ones people decorated at our baby shower) into a quilt. It’s so sweet to see my now 4 year old cuddled up with it.

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Love this.

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Sep 22, 2023Liked by Doree Shafrir

Aww, I think I need to clear out the baby stuff too because I am feeling like we're likely not going to have a 2nd. We adopted our first and would need to adopt a 2nd. We're on the older side of things and we don't have the money to move ahead with the adoption of another. So we likely aren't but I still can't fully let go. I applaud you for getting rid of that stuff. You've inspired me and made me feel less alone. Thank you.

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❤️

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Sep 22, 2023Liked by Doree Shafrir

Doree!!! Does this hit home. I adore Marie Kondo, I love the idea of the method but yes every single one of the blankets forming a pile next toy bed brings me joy! Yet I don't actually use any of them. I've been thinking a lot lately about how my house would be more functional with less stuff and even if the stuff brings me joy.... I'd also have joy in a house with less stuff.

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"I'd also have joy in a house with less stuff" — I need this on a needlepointed pillow. Wait, no I don't.

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Sep 22, 2023Liked by Doree Shafrir

i understand completely! we have limited storage space and i don't understand how i accumulate more stuff when it feels like i'm constantly getting rid of things. my parents just moved so they just dumped a ton of my old stuff on me as well, and it's been quite the emotional rollercoaster deciding what items from my past i should just discard...

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Sep 22, 2023Liked by Doree Shafrir

I relate to all of this harder than I can even express. I also feel like I need to mention that within two months of finally getting rid of piles and piles of baby stuff, I got unintentionally pregnant after needing fertility treatment to have the first. So I either wish you or do not wish you a Murphy's Law baby, depending on which you'd prefer.

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Honestly, it changes by the day. ❤️

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I feel this deeply - also in a small house, shared with a partner, 2 tween/teen boys, and a dog. And the thing about kids - they just...keep getting bigger? And bringing in their own stuff...and their giant friends. And it’s all wonderful but also there’s no space? Gah!

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On the other side of the coin, my husband and I come families that hoard waaaay too much stuff. Ruthlessly purging is therapeutic and I had to learn how to hold onto extras/seasonal/just in case stuff.

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We just had our second, and are not having more, and I’m already struggling with what to do with the NB clothes he’s already outgrown! Do I just instantly try to sell and donate? I want to keep some things for like, “memory clothes” but is that just one baby Outfit?

I have started using Dana K. White/A Slob Comes Clean’s decluttering method, and while I’m still battling piles, I have drastically improved! (It doesn’t come naturally to me!) - Disclaimer, as a person I believe she is pretty Christian conservative, but she clearly tries to keep that very separate.

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Could have written this. I’m still holding on too for similar reasons although have got ottoman beds to deal with lack of storage

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